In our generation wherein conformity and pretension are the usual norms, we lose the opportunity to garner the real rewards of vulnerability. It is so ironic that what we yearn nowadays is belongingness but we often isolate and set aside the very common thing we all acquire – vulnerability.
Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in human experience (Brown, “What it means to Dare Greatly” ). Rather than fantasizing on the impossible desire for perfection, why don’t we choose the humane path, the path to further fill our lives through vulnerability? We must let go of the idea that the false image of perfection leads to a better self.
We must embrace ourselves, but we can’t do that if we chose not to embrace vulnerability. And once you embrace yourself, you embrace others.
Vulnerability gives birth to compassion, for self, and for others. We became kind to others when we became kind to ourselves. When we found the beauty in each and every aspect of ourselves, we begin to know our real worth, and we become kind to ourselves. I know it’s a cliché, and here I am to further elaborate this idea for us to appreciate the deeper meaning of this cliché.
Imagine yourself as an empty bucket. You start pouring kindness to that bucket every time you get to know the real worth of the bucket and as the kindness rises, you also embrace yourself more wholly. When it reaches the brim of the bucket, it overflows and spreads to other people.
The second reason why we become kind to others when we become kind to ourselves is because when we are kind to ourselves, it means that we’ve accepted ourselves, together with our own vulnerabilities To clarify, vulnerabilities in this case refers to one’s internal liabilities. When we are able to do that, it simply means that we have enough knowledge to understand others that they, just like ourselves, are also worthy.
The last reason is simply because of vulnerability, which means in this case, the emotional exposure to uncertain environments (Brown, “Debunking the Vulnerability Myths”). When we learn the essence of vulnerability, we learn to accept the idea that we must take risks in order to be fully alive. As a result, we expose our true selves to others despite the risk that they may take advantage of us. Yes, we might get hurt and betrayed. We might think that it is better to just build walls around them to defend themselves from betrayal, they are actually also enclosing themselves from happiness. However, if you do really know the essence of vulnerability, you continue to show your real self, you continue to show your kindness because you know that it will all be worth it in the end.
Works Cited:
Brown, Brene. Daring Greatly. New York: Penguin, 2013. Print.